How come some people seem to have more luck than others?
There will be times in your life when you have had a funny feeling about something and the urge to back away kicks in. We are wired to sense danger – this goes right back to caveman times. Sometimes we don’t recognise or trust our own feelings about things.
Learning to trust your gut
Intuition is considered a real thing, defined as a Somatic Way of Knowing. Somatic or embodied knowing is experiential knowledge that involves senses, perceptions, and mind-body action and reaction.
Trusting your gut or intuition requires a level of self-belief. If you doubt your instincts, then you will second-guess yourself or listen to your doubts instead of your intuition. Indecision or fear to act on a chance my mean missing out, but you also need to know that not all opportunities are right for you or even legitimate. If something doesn’t feel right, ask yourself why? Is it because you are not confident in yourself or is it something more? Not every opportunity is right for you; the hard part is knowing what is a good fit.
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Belief in luck builds character
Expecting good fortune has many advantages. Character building is one of them; when things are not going well, or you are struggling to get ahead, believing that something good is around the corner teaches you to persevere, pushing forward through adversity until things improve. With this belief, you are more likely to understand the value of hard work, resilience and persistence to get you through.
When you develop a positive mindset, you become more resilient to difficult times. Your belief in things improving provides fortitude and gives you enough hope to carry on.
Attracting investment in your success from others
One of the spin-offs of committing to your success is that others will see you giving your all. They will recognise a good work ethic and attitude and think well of you for it. This will bring you a strong sense of support from those around you, as they encourage you and invest their hearts in your success.
Your belief in luck may produce results in other ways, as your supporters come up with ways to help you. When your actions and attitude inspire others to think of opportunities for you, who knows what unforeseen opportunities may arise.
Turning bad luck into good – more than just blind optimism
You have probably heard the saying; ‘always look on the bright side of life.’ Some may feel this is a form of blind optimism, but there is more to it than just painting over the cracks.
Turning bad luck into good is more about recognising the lesson in the situation and gaining from the experience or using failure to create something better. Lucky people tend to believe that things happen as a consequence of actions; instead of dwelling on the bad stuff, they quickly switch their minds to identifying the why and how to learn from it. They are more able to dust themselves off after a failure and move on to the next thing.
When things go wrong, and your carefully built plans go up in smoke, you could curse and cry out at the unfairness of it all. Or you could accept that it was not right for you and start looking for the opportunity in the ashes.
Sue Graham is a professional career counselor and career advice specialist based in Dunedin, Otago. If you would like to know more about the Social Job Search or some help with finding your next role, Contact Sue here